Randomness

First let me just say thank you all for the birthday wishes. I had a wonderful week..yup..I celebrated my birthday all week. My birthday itself was a busy day..I was on the move from 4;30am till 9;30pm but all in all it was a sweet day...My bobo made it special for me and I got enough calls from all over. My presents self..U wan try?
Fast-forward to Saturday...I woke up with a toothache..xoxo..I know what you are talking about now. See I've never had problems with my teeth until now. I knew I had a cavity but I was waiting to go to Naija in December to fix it. Its not my fault that root canals are so damn expensive. Omo, I was communicating with my tooth to hold on o..the thing no gree. From no where the tin begin dey pain like crazy. I was in my bed o groaning in pain when Sharon "a friend' said she was going shopping. You see as I like to shop I carried myself and went. Needless to say I was miserable all day. My head was pounding..I couldn't eat/sleep. I think I got high on Ibuprofen self. Anyways I got back home and went back to the fetal position I was in earlier..and na dia I tanda o.

Then, my roommates started talking some more about this party that was a half hour away. Everyone I asked was going to that one party and it just so happened that I was the only one that wasn't psyched. So I said I didn't feel like going o...say tooth dey pain I wan sleep. My roommates were like noo SA we aren't leaving you at home. One of my roommates doesn't like to go to parties and I saw that she was very excited about this one so I was like even if its just to say I was there too..Then I will go although I had no intention of dressing up.

I put on this God-forsaken tshirt and normal jeans and na so my roommates begin dey shout say noo..SA cant dress up like that. At this point, I started getting upset; I can wear whatever I want to wear whenever I feel like it. Somehow sha I put on a more 'presentable' outfit and off we went. On the way, we had to stop at Mike's house so Tope could pick up her keys. Next thing everyone was getting out of the car and I thought they were all being stupid. Why in the world did 5 girls have to go get one set of keys? Mike then came out and said we were looking so good he would take pics of us (he's really into photography). Anyone that knows me knows how I like to pose for camera now. Shoott....I walked faster and caught up with the group kia kia.

Na so I come enter house o...People come dey scream say "SURPRISEEEEE" My people, I tell you say I slow no be small. Na so I come dey look behind me to find the person wey dem dey surpise. Buhahaha! It took me a good minute to figure out the surprise party was for ME! AWWWWWWWW....na so I come begin the waterworks! There were like 40-50 people there...Fried rice...Chicken...DJ...everything!

I should've figured it out long ago. My roommate was supposedly 'studying' all nite long. I guess they had been cooking and decorating and stuff. They even got me one big cake like dat o..Chocolate cake for that matter. That one plus the marble cake boo got me earlier. I'm sure I've gained some 'birthday pounds.' Its all good though.
I danced so hard that nice...Shakira could have learnt a good number of moves.

Beyond birthdays sha...I've just been working like a horse. Even when I'm at home I feel the need to work. I don't know if its a good or a bad thing o..cos I need my personal time abi? I'm just glaaadd its the weekend and I get to sit back, relax,and catch up o blogs. Ok now...lemme get a piece of cake and let the reading begin. Hope there's enuff gist for me o.


Wait o...I forgot to mention this: So I have this friend Gina (Naija girl) and another friend MissW. For a while Gina and Mr. D have been 'talking.' MissW on the other hand is in a relationship with one of boo's closest friends. Infact they met at my house the first time Boo's came to meet me as per his boy's girl. He is a really nice guy and he's totally 200% into Miss W. About a month ago, Mr.D came into town with his friend, Gina was outta town but Miss W. and Mr.D ended up at a party together...and to cut the long story short...the deed was done. How did it come to light?Mr.D and Miss Gina have been talking some more lately and he confessed to her. Gina and MissW are close friends...as in they are immediate close friends...no be say they are in different circles. Gina said Mr.D was crying when he told her. Whatever,,,he should continue crying and you should stop talking to him at once. For a whole week I could not look at MissW in The face o...She doesn't know that I know about the whole thing cos Miss Gina told me as a big sis. MissW has wronged me on both sides. She slept with my girl's man AND she cheated on her boyfriend who she met at my house. I know I am a big mouth but I told boo and he is very upset esp since she cheated on his paddy paddy. He swore he wouldn't say aything for my safety lol but we will see. MissW's bobo is in town again this weekend..he drives 3 hours to come see her and he has been down the past 3 weekends in a row.....Apparently she told him that she kissed a guy..I guess kissing and 'having sex' and the same thing these days, right?
Mr D came to town last week and Gina was giving him attention still. For real...would you still give the guy time if you know he and your girl got down and dirty? True he and Gina do not have anything yet but he is professing his love day and night and I just know she is falling for him despite all the shakara.. O yeah by the way she forgave MissW. M like wow..is this graciousness or stupidity?
I guess I am not a part of the problem or the solution so I should keep my comments to myself.

Now I will get back to my blog reading. Hope you had an awesome awesome week!

SA

Crazy Days

I am dry...work dey try kill me but I have adopted this "no one can bring me down' attitude. Please o. Its September..my month! Shoootttt. I'm not moving na hia I tanda. Its my birthday on Wednesday the 13th and yes I am excited cos its my day! INfact lemme talk true...I feel like I own the month. By the way Boo and I are born on the same day but in the different months. Awww....yeah whatever.

Nothing much has been going on with me o...except for the fact that I got sick..yes o.I am getting over a cold. na so so sneeze sneeze...enough kleenex in the trashcan at home and at work. O..and the mean woman at work who my officemate calls the 5-letter B word..(yeah that one) has decided that she likes so she is being nice to me. I fear this niceness o.

Ok this woman seems to be one of this old single women that never got married and is content to be mean and drown herself in her work. She started at my company as a full time staff 3 weeks after I got there...her fashion sense is an apology..and she is one of those that feel the need to ask questions to appear smart or something. I think she is just sucking up to our manager jare.


Its so happened that my work and the lady's work is kinda similar so we collaborate sometimes (unfortunately). While the guy that trained us was here...madam would complain about everything. See me see trouble our finance department organized a 'summer blast' event for everyone one. There's over 100 people total.We were all going to go bowling for the afternoon..my lazy self mehnn my happiness no get part II. Getting the afternoon off...to go bowling..eat pizza..wings..all that good stuff...FOR FREE..while getting paid.Haba!! too good. Everyone should be excited right? Noooo.. Madam could no just see why a bunch of people would leave work to go bowling. She refused to RSVP but in the end she was forced to go. Of course she complained that she would prefer to work..m like woteva...pass me a slice of pizza pleaaasee! Beyond that she even mentioned that she did understand why her brother would drive his own wife to work.


I dont know she was sharing this information with me and the poor guy from NY. I dont want to know, but now that you've mentioned it, I think its sweet that your brother drives his wife to work. Thats how its supposed to be! Do you know she said if it were her, she would make the woman ride the bus. Later she starts going on about her cats and how she has to feed them. In my head I'm like blah blah blah.....ok lets continue this story tomorrow! haha

On another note o..See me see trouble...women and their issues! Ok so this past weekend, na so I dey tanda o. This girl happened to walk by and I was like o I'm waiting for my boyfriend. By the way, I met Em through her boyfriend o. This is how our convo went.

SW: I am waiting for my bobo
Hater: Who is your bobo?
SW: Em.
Hater: STILL?

Mehn if to say she be Naija na slap go land for her mouth. SHio! She be half Tunisian half American and her bobo na this nice African American guy that I used to work with o. Mehn I was gonna ask her "Are you still with you own bobo?"
What did she mean by that? I told Boo o and I will tell her Bobo self when I see him. This girl is the most paranoid freak I have ever seen. She seems to think everyone is after her man. I leave her in her paranoia but when she comes ans starts asking me stupid questions like that...SW gets MAD very MAd.
Anyways...Her case is in the cooler!

Nothing much has been going on with me o...just work...school..regular stuff. How have you been?

Visiting "Friends."

Whats up my people..how una dey? I know its been a long minute. My dayshave suddenly become endless..from work to class. Infact e no easy. I havent even had time to do my fav thing at work..visit blogs. Anyways, most of the craziness is gone for now so i can steal a visit here n there. Yes o, the roomate came back from her summer in Texas and na so tory begin.Lets call my roomie Nneka.

As I mentioned earlier Nneka was in Texas on summer workingin the sales field. I no go lie its hardwork but I have seen how it has built her character. She has the positive attitude that no one can bring her down. Its a great thing to see. Anyways, while she was working at this job a friend of hers introduced her to another friend located somewhere in the SouthWest.

SouthWest friend was very nice. Nneka talked to him very often but all they talked about was her daily sales. According to her they didnt get into any personal stuff at all. I remember her calling me n telling me about this angel. He would call everyday so see how her day went and would encourage her continuously and not even try to hit on her or get personal at all. She said the encouragement was much needed and appreciated.Although she had never met him she was glad she could talk to him wih no strings attached. He was a breath of fresh air.

Come first week in August, Nneka's work was done but it didnt go as she planned...she didnt earn as much as she expected after working her ass of all summer! Of course she was frustrated. Mr.SouthWest invited her to come and chill before going back home and Nneka accepted. First when she got there...there was a mix-up so she was stuck at the airport for a couple of hours. Later. Mr.SW came in the company of a female friend to pick her up. Nneka likes food no lie and she was excited to see all kinds of Naija food waiting for her. She says she ate like a starved lion. lol. The host was very nice and so was his female friend. Later on, friends came to hang out...people started drinking and all. Nneka got tired and went to bed while people were hanging out.

Then, she though she was dreaming and in the dream someone was lying behind her on the bed trying to ...u know! Na so Nneka wake up come see oga SouthWest dey try 'do' from behind. Na so she just stand up commot for dia ask him wetin im dey do. she commot go patio go sleep on top chair.
Next morning Oga SW come make nice breakfast..pancakes..fruit..everything..even icecream on the side self. As much as Nneka like food she no gree chop am although she dey wish say anoda person cook am make she demolish. She tall am say she no wan chop say wetin happen last nite...

Nneka: Wetin u dey try do as I dey sleep yesterday
Oga SW: Wetin you expect?
Nneka: I tink say u be better person. all dis time we dey talk as friends..we no talk this kind of talk.I demand an apology.
Oga Sw:ok, am sorry (the sorry no come from im mind)

The rest of the day Nneka no talk to oga..she just siddon outside dey look. Na so oga say made dem go watch movie. I no know who dey go to movie theatre 2 hours in advance but na so oga SW dey roll. As them dey too early na dem go one place so relax..the whole 2 hours nobody say natin! talk bout uncortable situations.
Na when the movie dey start oga SW voice return from pilgrimage. na so e begin dey ask Nneka why she dey act weird say make dem start afresh.
Nneka: Wetin u mean by afresh, make i tell you now say I dey no hold your hand talk less of making out with you or anything.
Oga SW no come like dat answer o...he ask wetin she dey expect as she come visit am.

My people, me self I ask Nneka wetin she dey find reach dat side! She tell me say she think say the man be responsible person o. On the real, I dont think men can be trusted like that anymore. The friend that introduced Nneka to SW is ashamed of course because he's someone she held had respect for. does this mean that men will always be men? I dont want to believe that o. I want to believe that there are men that respect women.

Anyways, Nneka learnt her lesson. No Visiting "Friends."

Endless Questions, Zero Answers

My week has been going really well...I am getting used to this 4am thing. I went out to lunch with my department today and it was a fun 2 hours off work. Haha. So I got on the first bus and took my usual 20 min nap while the somalis talked on and on...I wasnt bothered.I got off that bus and got on my last bus hoping to catch my hour nap. Then I checked my phone and found out my sister had called twice and she sent a text too. I was like 'damn Sade wont let meeven rest for 20 minutes.' And then I read the text....

I know I did not breathe for the next 10 seconds as I sunk into my seat. My head was spinning...it's still spinning as I write. I know I read someone's blog today about asking why when bad things happen..maybe God was preparing my mind for what was coming. NO, it did not work cos my question now is WHY?? Let me tell you what happened, maybe you will understand.

Our family friends Mr & Mrs.S lived in the next Close. Their daughter Bola was my class mate and their son was my sister's classmate. We went to the same nursery school and Secondary school...all four of us. The parents dotted on their kids..no one could mess with them o! It so happened that Mr. S was SS and so were the two kids.

FFWD to 2000...Bola took ill and died shortly...in her mothers arms. We werent best friends but we were good enough friends. The reality of death is brutal. Last September, my dad called to tell me that Mr. S was sick...the SS thing again and a few days later, he died...again in his wife's arms!

On Saturday, my sis in Naija called to tell me that Seun (the only surviving child) was in a car crash.He was returning from a vigil and he was tired so he fell asleep at the wheel and crashed. She said the injuried werent so bad...he was coherent...he was going to be ok. I said a quick prayer for him. Althrough the week I imagined he was improving although I did not ask. And then I got the text message from my sister "Seun dad in his mom's arms this afternoon."


WHY?

See I feel miserable right now..but I know it is nothing compared to what Mrs. S is going through. Every other member of her immediate family died in her arms. What do people sya to console her? That God understands? That God gives and takes? That it will be well? What will be well?

But then I remember this song:

Blessed be Your name when the sun's shining down on me
When the world's "all as it should be"
Blessed be Your name
And blessed be Your name on the road marked with suffering
Though there's pain in the offering
Blessed be Your name


You give and take away
You give and take away
My heart will choose to say
Lord, blessed be Your name

I know its easier to talk because we are not in Mrs.S' shoes...but there is something we can do...if your reading this, please say a prayer for Mrs.S. I cant tell you what to say cos I dont know either.

Since we are alive and well..remember to thank God for the gift of life because thats what life is. I cannot say this...tell people how much you care about them. At least I know that if tomorrow never comes, Em will not wonder how much I care about him..because he knows.

I know this may not have been the most uplifting read..I just had to share and get it off somehow.

Keep smiling my dear bloggers. I am!

SapphireAster

You Had A Bad Day..You're Taking One Down...

Yesterday I had typed up a post about my hella crappy week and I got to work this morning determined to let ya'll know how crazy it has been. I had a zillion things to complain about and I even wanted to add the story about THAT friend that uses me all the time. From waking up at 4am everyday, to the people on the damn bus that wont let me sleep, to the battalion of somalis that get on the bus in the afternoon and suddenly it starts stinking, to the tummy sickness I get on the bus everyday cos the driver doesnt drive as 'smoothly' as I think he should, the boredom in my office cos Steph is gone all week, the long 13 hours I spend outside of my house everyday, the neighbors dog's poop I stepped on last nite, my dad calling at 2am...when I only had 2 precious hours of sleep to go. My list seemed endless

And then...for some odd reason I got to work and stumbled upon a blog with a post about being thankful. I realize that instead of wasting my energy and time thinking about that friend that uses me, I should be thankful for my friend N that I met my freshman year and how much impact that one person has had on me. I will tell you about her in my next blog.

I am sorry for every minute I spent getting upset at Boo because he forgot some lame story i told him last year. I know I should be thankful to have a guy that gave me his car for the first month of my job while he tried to get rides to work himself. I am thankful for a man that cares about me enough to make me dinner, and wake up at 5am to drop me off at the bus station. I am thankful for a man who comes to my house right as he gets home from a long day at 10:30pm just to say goodnight and tuck me in while I rant about my crazy day!

I am thankful for this internship that I have with this "BIG NAME" Company that I do not even deserve. When the hiring manager called me to tell me the internship would be for 6 months so I would be taking the semester off, I told him plainly that I would not consider it and that I was NOT interested. he told me to think about it...
talk to my advisor cos he felt it was worth it. he kept calling me back trying to get me to interview and I finally agreed to interview after 'resting' from finals. In Corporate america, no one begs you to "consider" interviewing. Its a big name company and I know they had tons of applicants. The interview was more like yarning with my friend...I pretty much knew I got the job. I know I am highly favoured and I am thankful for that.

I talked to my roomate an hour ago..the girl is working her a** off in Texas this summer and things are not going as well as she expected but she has an AMAZING SPIRIT. Instead of complaining she says : "Its going to be a greeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaattttt day." I admire her spirit and I am taking on that attitude.

So on Monday when my alarm goes off at 4;00am, instead of cursing, I will say : "Thank you God...cos I know its gonna be a greeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaattttttt day."